I need advice: I am a pastor in COGOP who had his wife leave him for another man from our local church. My wife and I had been married 25 years and have 3 kids; the man was a teacher in the church, was married for 16 years, and also has 3 kids. Both were well liked and respected and their actions shocked everyone who knew them. Naturally this situation devastated the church and families, especially when they moved in together while filing for divorces and began an all out assault on their former spouses to justify themselves. Both claimed that God was a forgiving God and justified their new life through grace. The church rallied around me and ask me to continue as pastor. I have been very careful what I said openly for the sake of our children; refusing to criticize and condemn, but also careful not to condone their actions.
They immediately began attending a COG located less than a mile from our location and have been working in SS and Children's ministries. Now that the divorces are final, they are planning a wedding and the pastor of this church is officiating. Were I not personally involved, I feel it would be my duty to at least talk with this pastor about their actions and his part in validating their belief that it was ok for them to to take this course because they were in love.
Should I just give this to God? Do I have a responsibility in this case even though I am personally involved and would be accused of seeking revenge to address this?